Wake Up Wednesday – Do Your Best

Always Do Your Best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements

Yes, it’s Thursday. Yes, this is a #WakeUpWednesday post. No, I did not intentionally wait to post this until today given the topic.

I did, however, wake up this morning believing that this is a good opportunity to share this post with you, as many of you out there have unrealistic expectations for yourself when it comes to “doing your best.”

What does it mean to do your best? It’s something I’ve mentioned on this blog before. It’s discussed in The Four Agreements. It’s a topic on many people’s lips every day. My father, for example, is constantly telling me, “Lisa, you can only do your best. That’s all anyone can do.” I’ve heard the phrase and used the phrase hundreds–if not thousands–of times before, and I don’t think I’ve ever truly stopped to contemplate what that means. I’m stopping today to delve into what “doing your best” means for all of us because I haven’t believed that I’ve done my best this week, and I don’t know if that’s necessarily true.

The fourth quarter is notoriously a busy time for me as a consumer finance regulatory attorney. I have renewal applications for licenses for all of my clients; I have quarterly and annual filings that need to be made; I have billable hours to worry about; I’m trying to plan for the days that I need to work from home around the holidays. As a mom, I’m starting to worry about where I’m spending the holidays and what I’m going to get my husband and daughters and family and friends for Christmas. I also typically (and do currently) feel run down around this time of year. I’m tired all of the time. I want to spend my free minutes recuperating from rough days at the office and the stresses of my personal responsibilities. I want to give my full and best attention to my husband and family and friends and clients and co-workers, but I find that I’m not always able to because I feel stretched-thin and run down.

I’ve been feeling a little bit this way recently, and, in the midst of all of these feelings, I missed my window of opportunity yesterday to post this #WakeUpWednesday blog. I chastised myself for not “doing my best,” for not “trying hard enough,” to work towards providing you all with helpful content. I thought to myself last night that “I failed” this week, but “I guess there’s always an opportunity next week to post something.” I’d hoped all of you out there in cyberspace would forgive me for my failures yesterday.

I woke up this morning, however, thinking that I might not have failed yesterday. I really did try my best yesterday to get to this post. It’s just that, yesterday, doing my best and managing all of my personal and professional responsibilities meant that I didn’t have an opportunity to give you all a #WakeUpWednesday.

So, I thought, let’s post a #WakeUpWednesday today that discusses what it means to do your best.

Let’s roll into this weekend after having paused for a moment this morning to think about whether we’re doing our best and see where we all wind up on the “Doing Your Best” spectrum.

For me, “doing my best” meets me wherever I am. If I’m sick, I can only do the best that a sick person can do. If I’m tired, I can only do the best that a tired person can do. If I’m happy, wonderous, well-rested, loving… Well, you get the point. You and I can only do the best that we can based upon the specific circumstances of each moment of our lives. In order to “do our best,” I don’t believe that we need to be superhuman–that we always need to give more than we have. We just have to be cognizant of what our goals are, we need to be sincere about wanting to do our best to reach those goals, we need to give our full energy in any given moment towards achieving those goals, and, finally, we need to forgive ourselves if we aren’t giving as much energy as we could on our absolute best day. If our “best” today falls short of what our absolute BEST is, we need to love ourselves through it and fight another day. We need to take time to heal and recuperate so we can give even more of ourselves at a later time.

Today, Friday, and every day, I am going to follow these rules. I am going to rest peacefully knowing that I’ve given my best attention to you, my clients, my family, and myself at any given moment and circumstance in my life.

Thank you for the opportunity to bring this #WakeUpWednesday post to you on this gloomy Thursday morning. Thank you for helping me to realize that I have done my best. And, thank you for continuing to read this Mommy, ESQ. blog. Your support means everything to me.

With love,

Mommy, ESQ.

How do you know you’ve done your best? What is your metric for measuring it?

What are your rules to follow?

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